Fun speed dating ideas
Speed-dating events bring an equal number of men and women to a bar or restaurant and give each person five minutes with another person before meeting the person at the next table.Speed dating can be more stressful than a first date or even approaching someone at a bar.Three others cited sickness and a work obligation, and one was a no-show. When I consider why the concept attracted me so, and look back at the several men I met and dated—briefly—while serving as EO, it becomes clearer.This is when life takes a funny (in hindsight) turn, leaving me with too many men. And although the men were as friendly and talkative as I had hoped they would be, the majority of them thought it appropriate to tell their dates that they were attending for free. Let me tell you, the women had a hard time seeing my side of this story. I was a fan of the eight-minute date because that is what worked for me.At a speed dating event, participants are paired up in a series of quick five- to seven-minute "dates." When the time is up, a bell or timer is rung, and participants move on to their next one-on-one conversation.While seven minutes may not seem long enough to determine whether a new acquaintance is a potential match, Rabbi Deyo and other speed dating organizers have found that it gives participants plenty of time to gauge their level of interest or get a feeling that the other person is just not the right fit.As an added bonus, the round-robin setup enables participants to meet more potential matches in one evening than they might otherwise encounter in a month or more of traditional dating.
If you show up expecting a freak show, you will meet a sideshow act.Example: “Please plan an event that will enable me, a 56-year-old woman, to participate in the speed dating. I just turned 40 and after reading the age group for your event I was offended.” Over 40 myself, I empathized and promised these people—my people—that I would be the one to turn this ship around. Yes, typing it out makes it sound so much worse than it did in my head, but I wanted so much for this event to happen.I want to be honest and therefore will not crash the event planned for 47-year-olds.” Another woman wrote, “Please tell me what it is wrong with being over 35? I found another “olde taverne” type setting and arranged an event for the 42 to 54 age range. Offering free coupons meant this event would be pro bono for me—it would cost me money, actually. I did not blanket suitable suitors on but instead read every profile in this age range and explored their interests and personalities.The reason is you only have a limited time to make a great impression and you know you are competing with a room full of others being given the same opportunity.This audition atmosphere can cause you to fumble with words and questions. The worst that can happen is you move on to the next table. Ask a guy whether you can bring your friends on the first date.
The final event, though, was a two-month disaster in the making, and I blame myself. But I wanted so much for it to happen that I had another of my now-famous bad ideas. All I needed to do was search a reasonable radius for men in my target age range looking for women in that target age range.