Dating a man with emotional baggage
He has learned that there is something more important than him.
But when I started dating this divorced man in his late 30s, I thought he was sexy and sturdy in ways that younger men simply weren't.
“As a single, childless woman in my early thirties, let me assure you that there are a ton of single dads out there, too.” Another sarcastically added, “I'll be 30 in a few months and I'm a single mother (oh, the horror).” But, even when you eventually find someone worth dating things aren’t always as they seem.
**Please note – Since I first started Baggage Reclaim, while it’s still read mainly by women, I have a lot of male readers too, as well as readers in all types of relationship.
In this post, I provide an overview of these signs and behaviours so that you can get a reading on your current relationship (or ‘non-relationship) situation.
What I can assure you of is that their unavailability isn’t sparked by something you said or did, it’s not that they’ve ‘changed’ and that you need to find the right ‘access code’ and you’re definitely not going crazy; they’re More often than not, the primary issue that women focus on is the emotional unavailability but there are always physical and spiritual issues to prop it up.
After a while it seems as if he wants to avoid doing anything that involves being close to you – think emotional intimacy – despite starting off very eagerly when he was pursuing you and unsure that he could win you.
Did I mention that Mr Unavailable associates the feeling of desire with the feeling of uncertainty and being out of control?
“Every relationship needs to be 'serious',” someone said.